1. stage: Denial and isolation
You hear one of their songs. Your first reaction is “wow it’s pretty good what’s this band called? oh shit. it’s one direction. but they’re good. is this really them? oh god, it cannot be, no" It is a normal reaction to question it because if you’re not really familiar with their music and you’ve only heard of their insane screaming fanbase. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of surprise. You start to listen to them occasionally, their songs slowly take over on your playlist you start to watch their music videos and "funny moments" on youtube and you start to secretly follow 1d blogs.
2. stage: Anger
As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality re-emerge. You are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from your vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger. Why shouldn’t you like this music? Why shouldn’t you blog about them? Because people would give you strange looks? “Oh you like One Direction? That’s so lame” And then, as soon as you start actually blog about them you start getting weird anons about the fandom and the band members. They’re attacking you or just trying to warn you. So you’re angry. Your anger may be aimed at your friends or your fandoms, directioners, complete strangers or even your family. Anger may be directed at 1d management or at the band itself. Of course you know the band is not to be blamed so you feel guilty for being angry and it makes you more angry. Take your time, anger will pass eventually.
3. stage: Bargaining
The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control.
If only you hadn’t click on that link…
If only the fandom would be less crazy…
If only you had tried to be a closeted directioner…
If only the boys weren’t so funny and cute and talented…
Secretly, you may make a deal with yourself. “I will not get into this deeper than I am right now.” But you know it won’t work, you know yourself.
4. stage: Depression
Sadness and regret predominate this type of depression. You worry about the costs of being a fan. You run a tv shows/movies fandom blog and worry you will lose followers. More like, you do lose followers, it only takes one reblogged post to lose three or four followers at a time. This phase may be eased by simple clarification and reassurance. You may need a bit of helpful cooperation and a few kind words. Sometimes all you really need is to watch one more “funny moments" video on youtube.
5. stage: Acceptance
Reaching this stage of fangirling is a gift not afforded to everyone. You may never see beyond your denial. This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is a period of happiness. Coping with becoming a fan is a ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience nobody can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through. But other fans can be there for you and accompany you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the joy as it comes over you. Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of fangirling.